On January 15th, 2006, I hopped in the back of my family’s black Chevrolet Suburban with my parents and younger brother to begin the trip of a lifetime. I was in the fourth grade at the time, but I recall hearing my dad and mom talk about this trip since I was in kindergarten. We were headed down to Fort Pierce, Florida to take our 1994 Blue Water out of dry dock and into the water for its longest journey yet.
My dad stopped working, my mom started homeschooling, and my brother and I basically went on an extended field trip. We spent just over two months exploring Florida and The Bahamas, and learned so much about the world, society, and ourselves (not to mention a lot about boats) along the way. Lucky for me (and you), what happens in the Bermuda Triangle doesn’t stay in the Bermuda Triangle these days, so if you’re craving a new adventure, here are my major takeaways from embarking on this once-in-a-lifetime journey:
Work and Save Money with Intention
When you spend as much time saving lives and witnessing traumatic injuries as my dad does while working in the Emergency Room, I refuse to believe that your cortisone levels and emotional wellbeing are not permanently affected by your work. But even if you (like me) are dealing with a less intense, but still toxic work environment, it can be extremely difficult to motivate yourself to get out of bed and go to work everyday from now until you’re sixty-five if you don’t have any sort of organized concept in mind about what you are working to accomplish.
While it goes without saying that virtually all of us have bills to pay, debt to pay off, and potentially children to provide for, it is important to invest at least a small portion of your income in yourself. If you don’t currently have a dream vacation or passion project tugging at your heartstrings, this is the time to save up! But if you’re reading this, chances are you have a strong case of wanderlust and live your dreams vicariously through your Pinterest boards. Take some time and find something you can look forward to: maybe it’s taking a week-long getaway, starting a class in a subject that interests you, or leaving the workforce altogether to go off the grid. Knowing that you are spending those forty hours each week working towards something amazing will energize you more than coffee!
Invest in Experiences AND Items that Enhance Them
If you’re familiar with wanderlust culture at all, you are probably familiar with the concept that it is better to spend your money on experiences than material possessions. While this is true to an extent, this mindset has led me to embark on adventures without the proper supplies, pursue new hobbies without the proper equipment, and ultimately sacrifice some quality of the experience I paid for because I failed to invest in the material items that help make it happen.
If you want to live the skoolie life, you need to buy a bus (check out my college roommate Sarah and her fiancé Chris’s YouTube channel Skoolie Livin!); if you want to reenact Captain Ron, you need to buy a boat. My parents saved for literal years and did a ton of research before making their purchase. Also important is the fact that your expenses aren’t done when the initial purchase is complete; that is only the beginning! Engine repairs and other mechanical maladies are also virtually guaranteed to be a part of your travel expenditures; we had to pull our boat out of the water to replace a prop or two along the way and almost had to abandon our trip entirely because of a catastrophic engine problem. Remember that your adventure budget needs to cover more than just plane tickets and city tours!
Surround Yourself with Ambitious People
This one is so critical. It’s also relatively easy to stick with once you start chasing your ambitions, though, because the people you’ll meet on your adventures will be other ‘yes men!’ Yes, I’ve seen the movie Yes Man and know that you can’t say yes to everything, but I use the term because it is the most fitting way I can think of to describe people who not only talk about the dreams they have, but say ‘yes’ and take action to make them a reality.
Part of what makes being a yes man (yes person?) so difficult is that the regret from not saying yes to yourself and your dreams is a delayed feeling; it might not be until years from now when you lack physical mobility, financial stability, or time to pursue your goals that you wish you had. Saying yes is something you do on your own, but the path it leads you on will make you feel anything but lonely. We met some incredible people on our trip from all over the world and bonded instantly with them over the different paths we took that led our paths to cross!
Once-In-a-Lifetime Memories Can Happen More than Once
Imagine how I felt when, at a ripe ten years old, I came back from my boat trip, started going to school again, and heard people around me say how lucky I was to go on my once-in-a-lifetime adventure so young. While I agreed with them and definitely was fortunate to have gone on the trip, I also panicked at the thought that the coolest thing in my life had already happened to me and that there would never be anything comparable for me to look forward to after that. Directly or indirectly, setting the bar so high contributed to my first major mental health scare, and I have since found it a productive practice to set ambitious goals that constantly keep me motivated and looking forward to new experiences, both big and small.
If you can’t come up with a dream experience off the top of your head, that’s okay; my dad always knew he wanted to spend more time on boats, but didn’t necessarily have this trip in mind at first. Through people he met, smaller boating trips he went on, and research he and my mom did, the idea for the houseboat trip to The Bahamas came to life. It’s like building your resume in the sense that you don’t know where you’ll end up when you first enter the workforce, but when you retire and look back on your experiences, you’ll see that each job contributed to your final (and hopefully favorite) job. The next adventure I have in mind will likely have something to do with water skiing, but how that will manifest is still TBD! Instead of fearing the unknown, I just prepare myself for a journey that I can’t quite see the end of yet.
Life *with* Purpose, Not for a Purpose
All clichés and pep talks aside, this is my ultimate life truth. As I mentioned earlier, an arduous journey with mental illness began a few years after our trip, and it was my parents who provided a lot of insight on my road to recovery. When you feel like life is meaningless and start Googling how others have found motivation to recover, there are a lot of catchy blog post titles and Instagram captions about finding ‘your purpose’ in life or what you were ‘born to do.’ This is so problematic to me and honestly is a sales scheme that encourages us to continually spend our money with the notion that we might eventually stumble across the meaning of life on Amazon or at mall. Sounds silly when it’s phrased that way, right?
Like any emotional void that capitalism tells us can be filled with “stuff,” we remain perpetually unsatisfied in our quest for meaning. Though we do need money to make travel and other dreams happen, we are often misguided about where to invest it. The takeaway here is that if you keep searching for a single, sole purpose for your life, you’re never going to find it. Instead, I found purpose – and as close to a miraculous antidote as is possible for depression and dysthymia – in everything. For everything I needed to do, whether an outlandish GRE course in college or a hard job, I determined the purpose; in other words, why I had to do this, what goals it would help me accomplish, and what I could learn from it. If there were things in my life that I couldn’t find purpose in, I stopped doing them. If you’re going to do something, anything, crazy or not, make sure you can find purpose in it, and make sure that it is meaningful to you. You’ll never know what you are capable of if you don’t set out to pursue your dreams with intention.
Have you gone on a life-changing journey, accomplished one of your lifelong dreams, or took a risk and steered your life in a completely new direction? I’d love to hear your story!